Some men REFUSE to pay on the first date

I recall speaking to several classmates back in my college days who said they never offered to pay for dinner on the first date.

Their reasons were quite varied. Some elected not to pay out of sheer frugality. Others were afraid that if they came out of pocket too quickly, their date would expect to be treated on every future date.

One guy in particular found this to be an effective strategy because he claimed to only date models whom most guys would label "10s." He felt it set him apart from other men who threw themselves at these attractive women.

I might be old school, but I wouldn't let a woman pay on the first date. What's more, I wouldn't let her pay until we've officially declared ourselves an item, at which point I'd feel more comfortable letting her treat me once in a while.

I think that making a good impression on a woman includes being chivalrous. This runs the gamut from paying for a meal to holding the door to offering her his jacket on a cool night.

If, after being in a relationship for a few months, a guy finds that his girlfriend never offers to pay for anything, that's when he should begin to worry whether he has a gold digger on his hands.

The worst offense of all is not wanting to pay out of thriftiness. Guys, if you're so cheap as to not want to spend 20 or 30 bucks on a woman, you're not ready to be dating -- let alone pursuing a relationship.

Ladies, have you ever gone out with a cheapskate who refused to pay on the first date? If so, did you ever see him again?

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