How to Read People

We all love the sappy Hollywood ending where the good guy gets the girl, even after she initially falls for the jerk/villain.  It's too bad that real life often doesn't play out this way. The one thing that many women find irresistible in bad boys is their confidence.  Sure, oftentimes they're just faking it, but this doesn't became apparent until later.  The other day, as I was reflecting on my primary and secondary school days, it suddenly hit me: All the guys who girls were typically drawn to were either: 1. Athletes 2. Troublemakers 3. Much older 4. Some combination of the above But not usually academic standouts like me -- the well-behaved kind who just liked to chill at home or with friends after school/on the weekends. To be fair, there are always exceptions. But by and large, most attractive girls (and even ones that might not be considered 10s by any stretch) followed this pattern.  Chances are, the reasons girls chase after bad boys boils down to one or mor...

No matter how nice and accommodating you may be toward friends and family, you can't control their loyalty towards you. Never expect that just because you act a certain way toward someone, they'll immediately turn around and reciprocate. In a perfect world, everyone would be disposed to scratching our back when we scratch theirs, but there are no guarantees in life. Some people are takers far more than they are givers. They're out to benefit themselves and pay little attention to the plight of those they have the audacity to call a friend or loved one. Especially telling is when they vanish into thin air upon learning that someone needs help. A good person sticks by through thick and thin. Of course, we all have obligations -- work, children, community service, and the like -- that may prevent us from getting as deeply involved as we'd like. But if we're fed every excuse in the book for why a person can never be there for us, it starts to feel dising...