It does, but only to a certain degree. Surely, one must put themselves out there in order to be noticed. A partner won't magically fall in your lap, and being holed up in your room all day greatly diminishes your prospects. But you don't want to overdo it either. A girl I used to work with treated virtually every guy she met in the workplace as a possible love interest. Vetting every man or woman you come across does come off as desperate. That's why, in the world of dating, it's better to work smarter, not harder. Go to places where people with whom you share a certain hobby are likely to be. If you want to date a bookworm, head to the library. If dancing is your thing, you might want to sign up for salsa lessons. If a partner with a great physique is atop your list, you ought to be spending time at the gym. You get the idea. You want to frequent places where you're bound to find people whose interests mirror or at least complement yours. In other words...

Whether we're talking career or relationships, one mistake far too many of us make is to put all our eggs in one "life" basket. What do I mean by this, you ask? Put simply, we start a new job or relationship and assume that it'll last forever; in the process, we let other potentially better opportunities pass us by. The downside to doing this in the realm of relationships, as I've elaborated on in prior posts, is that even after we get through the so-called honeymoon stage, we still try to overlook the other person's visible faults. We become so caught up in the excitement of a new relationship that we dismiss any potential red flags as our overthinking things. Unfortunately, these "flaws" come back to haunt us later on, resulting in problems that hurt if not damage the relationship beyond repair. I always encourage people to do the following when they've met someone new: - Don't be so quick to fall in love. Get to know the person...