Whether we're talking career or relationships, one mistake far too many of us make is to put all our eggs in one "life" basket.
What do I mean by this, you ask?
Put simply, we start a new job or relationship and assume that it'll last forever; in the process, we let other potentially better opportunities pass us by.
The downside to doing this in the realm of relationships, as I've elaborated on in prior posts, is that even after we get through the so-called honeymoon stage, we still try to overlook the other person's visible faults. We become so caught up in the excitement of a new relationship that we dismiss any potential red flags as our overthinking things.
Unfortunately, these "flaws" come back to haunt us later on, resulting in problems that hurt if not damage the relationship beyond repair.
I always encourage people to do the following when they've met someone new:
- Don't be so quick to fall in love. Get to know the person first before handing over your heart.
- Keep dating other people. That way you can compare each prospect and decide who is truly the best match for you.
- Please, and I repeat please -- resist the temptation to put all your closest friends on the back burner. I've lost track of the many people who have pulled this on me, and it sucks. Who will you turn to if the relationship goes sour?
When it comes to one's career, this follows the same kind of logic. Never settle for a company -- keep exploring whatever opportunities may be out there. Maybe you're lucky enough to work for a company big enough to offer a wide array of promotion opportunities within different departments. If that's so, take advantage of them! Regardless, you should always keep your options open. The next best opportunity for your career may just be somewhere else.
How many times have you started dating someone or taken a job, only to have a better option come along later? Sometimes timing is beyond our control. Still, if we know deep inside that there's a better job or partner waiting for us out there, we should never feel scared about making a change. You only live once!
What do I mean by this, you ask?
Put simply, we start a new job or relationship and assume that it'll last forever; in the process, we let other potentially better opportunities pass us by.
The downside to doing this in the realm of relationships, as I've elaborated on in prior posts, is that even after we get through the so-called honeymoon stage, we still try to overlook the other person's visible faults. We become so caught up in the excitement of a new relationship that we dismiss any potential red flags as our overthinking things.
Unfortunately, these "flaws" come back to haunt us later on, resulting in problems that hurt if not damage the relationship beyond repair.
I always encourage people to do the following when they've met someone new:
- Don't be so quick to fall in love. Get to know the person first before handing over your heart.
- Keep dating other people. That way you can compare each prospect and decide who is truly the best match for you.
- Please, and I repeat please -- resist the temptation to put all your closest friends on the back burner. I've lost track of the many people who have pulled this on me, and it sucks. Who will you turn to if the relationship goes sour?
When it comes to one's career, this follows the same kind of logic. Never settle for a company -- keep exploring whatever opportunities may be out there. Maybe you're lucky enough to work for a company big enough to offer a wide array of promotion opportunities within different departments. If that's so, take advantage of them! Regardless, you should always keep your options open. The next best opportunity for your career may just be somewhere else.
How many times have you started dating someone or taken a job, only to have a better option come along later? Sometimes timing is beyond our control. Still, if we know deep inside that there's a better job or partner waiting for us out there, we should never feel scared about making a change. You only live once!
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