Some of my male friends have posed this question to me countless times. The truth is, I share their plight. My wife, whom I've been with for over 10 years now, has never been one to initiate sex. Like my frustrated buddies, I found myself perplexed over the issue for many years. Eventually, I came to grips with the fact that no two women are built the same, especially when it concerns sex. There are a host of reasons as to why some women remain pursuees rather than pursuers. For one, some women have lower sex drives than others and find themselves unable to keep up with their partner's demands. Second, their disinterest in inititating sex may stem from their upbringing. Girls are taught from an early age that they should neither fawn over a man nor be too sexually forward. It is ingrained in these women that showing sexual interest is a man's job. They tend to keep their sexual desires under wraps lest they be labeled sluts or whores. While society gives men a pat on ...

What's the one thing that men wish women did more often in the bedroom? Not surprisingly, it's to initiate sex. Many men are frustrated by the fact that their partners expect them to always be the aggressors in the bedroom. "Why should I always be the one to break the ice?" they wonder. "It's the 21st century." Women could be reluctant to take the first step for one or more reasons: They prefer to stick to traditional gender roles in which the man pursues the woman They're afraid of rejection, should their partners not be in the mood Initiating makes them feel slutty  The issue is that many guys are left feeling rejected themselves when it becomes apparent that their partners don't want to take the initiative.  So what is a guy in this situation to do? He can start by talking openly with his partner about how he feels. If his wife's initiating sex would make him feel more desired, he should be upfront about it.  If s...

Based on what I have read and heard, while some women don't mind initiating sex, the vast majority of them prefer their partners to break the ice in the bedroom. The latter is certainly the case in my marriage, but it isn't as though I really mind -- at least not all the time. I'll admit that there are times I'd like my wife to be the aggressor. Who doesn't like surprises, right? But it's clear that 99.9% of the time, she wants me to take charge while she relishes the role of submissive. Women find sex to be more pleasurable when their partners are the dominant ones for one simple reason: the engine has to be warmed up before the fun starts. Whereas men need only see their partner naked to feel aroused, women need foreplay -- including kissing, rubbing, and so on -- to get in the mood. Men are visual creatures, while women are tactile. So, it would appear that most women are perfectly content playing traditional gender roles with their partners in bed. I...