How to Read People

We all love the sappy Hollywood ending where the good guy gets the girl, even after she initially falls for the jerk/villain.  It's too bad that real life often doesn't play out this way. The one thing that many women find irresistible in bad boys is their confidence.  Sure, oftentimes they're just faking it, but this doesn't became apparent until later.  The other day, as I was reflecting on my primary and secondary school days, it suddenly hit me: All the guys who girls were typically drawn to were either: 1. Athletes 2. Troublemakers 3. Much older 4. Some combination of the above But not usually academic standouts like me -- the well-behaved kind who just liked to chill at home or with friends after school/on the weekends. To be fair, there are always exceptions. But by and large, most attractive girls (and even ones that might not be considered 10s by any stretch) followed this pattern.  Chances are, the reasons girls chase after bad boys boils down to one or mor...

The biggest complaint men seem to have about women is that, when it comes to relationships, " they don't know what the heck they want .'' Many of these hapless guys say they do everything to gain women's favor -- buy them flowers and candy, send them romantic texts, call them every so often to see how they're doing -- but it still lands them in the friend zone. Still others say they can't understand why women go for the jerks they claim to loathe. It is true that what many women say they want -- and what they actually go for -- aren't always in alignment. Here's what I've observed: Most women don't go looking for jerks who will mistreat them. No one wishes to be treated like dirt -- unless, of course, they harbor low self-esteem and feel they deserve that. But that is the exception rather than the rule. No, what most women want is confidence . Though they may not say it directly, women really do want the man to be in charge, whet...