Attention hopeless romantics -- and, yes, I'm saying this with Valentine's Day on our doorstep -- if you've been trying for a while now to secure a guy's commitment to no avail, it's time to sit down and reassess the situation. I'm a guy myself and have been in this situation, so I know exactly how painful unrequited love can be. Here's the hard truth: Sometimes “not ready” means "not ready for you." Many moons ago, before I got with my now-wife, a girl I was head over heels for was never ready to settle down with me, yet she didn't want me out of her life completely either. As it turns out, she was talking to someone else all along, whom she later partnered up and had kids with. It's obvious what her endgame was: To keep me around for the attention (especially if she ever broke up or got into a spat with the guy). She wanted the cake and she wanted to eat it, too. In your case, it could mean he enjoys the benefits without commitment, ...
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