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How to Understand People would like to wish each and every one of you a happy, safe, blessed, and healthy new year! I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for their contributions to the blog this year  -- from reading posts to providing invaluable opinions on the many topics discussed. My New Year's resolution? To provide you guys with even more content than I did this year. Remember,  if there's anything you'd  like for me to write about, or if you need advice on anything from relationship s to your career, I'm always here to help. Here's to a great 2016 for everyone. Cheers! Jeff

Does it surprise you that many men say their top New Year's resolution is to sleep with as many women as they possibly can? Not only have I heard a few guys say this firsthand, but I've seen many cite this as their primary aim in 2016 in message boards featuring topics on New Year's goals. All I can say is...wow. Of all the things these guys can do to improve themselves in the New Year -- from losing weight and finding a better job to spending more time with loved ones -- they're only thinking about adding to their sex partner tally. Maybe it's time they aspired to something greater, like actually finding someone to settle down with. Sleeping with as many partners as you can hardly seems like a New Year's goal; rather, it's something you can really set out to do, well, whenever. I see the New Year as the opportunity to start with a clean slate. Upping your sex partner count merely seems like an effort to perpetuate an old habit -- one that should h

On this day in 1852, Rutherford B. Hayes, who would go on to become the 19th President of the United States, married Lucy Webb, a sociable, devout Methodist from his home state of Ohio. She was 24 and he was 33. Lucy met Rutherford when she was only 14, but the two did not start dating until she was in college. In 1850, she graduated with honors from Wesleyan Female College in Cincinnati, Ohio. After an engagement of a year and a half, the two were married in her mother’s home in Chillicothe, Ohio. The couple had eight children, six of which survived into adulthood. During the Civil War, Hayes served in Ohio’s 23rd Infantry regiment; at 40 he was regarded as an “old man” by the younger soldiers. Meanwhile, Lucy volunteered to lend a helping hand in hospitals, where she saw firsthand the atrocities of war. Hayes' fellow soldiers dubbed her the “Mother of the Regiment” for her gentle care and kindness. Not surprisingly, she would later be an activist for reforms in mental health,

"Glee" star Mark Salling was arrested Tuesday on child pornography charges. Salling, 33, who starred in the hit Fox musical as a regular for four seasons and continued to appear through the series finale this spring, was arrested after the LAPD’s Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force procured a search warrant for his home in Sunland, Calif. Apparently, police officers found hundreds of images on Salling’s computer. This isn't Salling's first brush with the law. In 2013, he was sued by an ex-girlfriend, Roxanne Gorzela, for sexual battery. He denied the allegations and subsequently filed a cross-complaint, but earlier this year he settled the suit and was ordered by a judge to pay Gorzela $2.7 million. Salling’s bail is set at $20,000. First Jared Fogle, now this guy? What is going on with these Hollywood celebrities? They have the money and fame to be with whichever woman (or women) they desire, but choose to get off on child porn instead? This ill

Many people insist that New Year's Eve should be spent with family. Those who are single or have no kids, however, say they're just as happy spending the night with only their partner or closest friends. I'm of the belief that New Year's Eve can be spent with anyone you hold near and dear to your heart -- whether it's your best friend or a group of long-time neighbors. I've never thought of New Year's Eve as being strictly a family affair -- unlike Thanksgiving and Christmas, which I do deem family occasions. It's interesting how people get into the habit of compartmentalizing different occasions. This day should be spent with such and such people, and that day should be spent with so and so. But shouldn't every day be considered Thanksgiving? Shouldn't we aim to spend any day of the year with family? Our time on this planet is short. We ought to make every effort to spend as many days of the year --above and beyond birthdays and holidays

Many people say that men have it made: they're physically stronger than women, don't have to give birth, and enjoy better salaries and promotion opportunities in the business world. The statistics below, however, might cause these people to reassess whether being a man is really all it's cracked up to be: Nine out of 10 prison inmates are men Among the homeless, men outnumber women by at least three to one Men are 10 times more likely to commit murder than women are Men are 10 times more likely to show up at the low end of distributions of IQ scores Men are more likely to be mentally retarded than women Men are more likely to abuse and abandon their kids  Men are less likely than women to take care of aging/ill parents Men outscore women on measures of closed-mindedness, cruelty, narcissism, hostility, and self-indulgence Men pay more than women for car insurance Men die earlier than women (about five years earlier on average) I think the above statistics s

I just finished reading an article on Univision.com stating that Hispanics continue to have the largest teen pregnancy rate in the U.S. A myriad of factors are to blame, including lack of education about pregnancy, not having the means to procure contraceptives, parents finding the subject too taboo to discuss with their kids at a young age, and so on. However, a high incidence of teen pregnancy isn't exclusive to the Latino community in the U.S. -- it's prevalent across all racial groups. Take all the reality shows on MTV that center on teen pregnancy, like "Teen Mom" and "16 and Pregnant." I firmly believe that parents should begin having an earnest talk with their kids about sex in their last year of elementary school. In fact, I remember taking a human growth and development course in the 5th grade, but talk of birth control and pregnancy was scant at best. We all know what happens once kids hit middle school: they hit puberty. Their hormones begin

For the past five months, real estate magnate Donald Trump has led all but two national polls of the Republican national primary. On Wednesday, a CNN/ORC poll found him with his largest lead yet: a 21-point advantage over Senator Ted Cruz (R-Texas), who himself has been surging in the polls of late. Trump was up three points from CNN's last survey in November. Many people are still asking themselves how this bombastic businessman could maintain frontrunner status this long. Trump has sold much of the Republican primary electorate on his ability to tackle the issues most concerning to Americans, with the economy and foreign affairs among them. Perceptions of his electability, favorability, and strategy on key areas have all improved considerably over the past six months. In many of these cases, he has seen dramatic shifts with the GOP electorate. Here are some of the findings: In December, 72% of registered Republicans view Trump favorably compared with only 51% who vie

Well, technology is partly to blame. The daguerreotype, introduced worldwide in 1839, was the first widely used photographic process. The exposure time in those early days was really long, sometimes lasting over 15 minutes. You could imagine how arduous a task it must have been for people to hold a smile that long. Getting your picture taken in the 19th century didn't come cheap. Most people had only one picture taken their whole lives, so the event itself was a big deal. Those with the wherewithal to have several pictures taken probably felt smiling didn't communicate classiness, so they refrained from doing it. Furthermore, at the turn of the century, smiling became more popular with the advent of the camera. Not only did they become more affordable and easier to use over time, but it became customary to use them for casual snapshots -- something those living in the mid-1800s might never have envisaged. Little did those folks know that selfies with cell phone cameras

Today's quote comes from Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790), whose impressive resume includes everything from Founding Father of the United States and printer to author, scientist, and diplomat. "Words may show a man's wit but actions his meaning." - Benjamin Franklin This one is a lot easier to decipher than prior quotes I've featured on the blog. Perhaps Franklin's quote predated a similar one we've come to know quite well: "Actions speak louder than words." I couldn't agree more with Franklin, and he would know this better than most as he himself worked in the political arena. We all have stories of encountering politicians or salesmen great at schmoozing with the public but once you try to dig deeper you're hard-pressed to find anything profound. They talk the talk but don't walk the walk. They fail to back up their words with concrete steps toward achieving whatever it is they've promised. Very rarely do I ever take someon

Some men refuse to date women who don't cook, whether it's because they don't know how to cook or have no interest in doing so. I actually have a few female friends and coworkers who have likely never boiled an egg in their life. Thankfully, my wife likes to cook, and she isn't too shabby at it. If it turned out that she didn't cook, I wouldn't hold it against her. That would be akin to her giving me a hard time about my not being a good handyman. She knows I am not a DIY kind of guy and doesn't mind in the slightest. I think men and women alike get hung up on traditional gender roles. Let's face it: We're in the 21st century. Women aren't just taking care of kids at home anymore while dad brings in the bacon. This is a wildly different world than the ones our grandparents came to know. Men who still believe that a woman's place is in the kitchen are displaying the worst kind of chauvinism. Women should neither like nor be expected to d

How to Understand People would like to wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas! May it be filled with ample love, peace, health, and joy. Is there anything in particular you asked Santa for this year? Where will you be spending the day, and doing what exactly? My wife and I plan to spend the day with our families before hitting up the movie theater tonight. Share your thoughts and please be sure to also share the blog with your friends and family. Again, from our family to yours, have a very Merry Christmas!

Unfortunately, Christmas is often associated with shopping and presents in the minds of many consumers -- and not much else. In this materialistic world we live in, far too many people have lost sight of the true meaning of Christmas. To me, Christmas is really about: The birth of Christ Spending time with loved ones Giving to the less fortunate Being thankful for what I have Being nice, noble and helpful Thinking about others before myself We should be mindful of these things year-round, but at the very least we should prioritize them this time of year.  Gifts come and go. They depreciate and are eventually discarded or replaced. Such is not the case with our friends and family, who most of us would deem irreplaceable.  Christmas is more about giving than receiving. It's about spreading a little cheer to those who sorely need it -- the poor, the sick, the injured, the elderly.  Christmas is about love. It's about neighborliness. It's about being t

If you've never seen the show "Hotel Impossible" on the Travel Channel, I highly recommend it. Each episode stars hotel expert Anthony Melchiorri, who visits a boutique hotel or motel in dire need of his expertise. Whether the property desperately needs to turn its finances around or requires major renovations to attract more guests, Anthony is a hotel doctor of sorts upon which the hotel owners rely to save their business. The show is definitely entertaining. You wouldn't believe all the things Melchiorri has discovered while combing over the properties: Dust Needles Condoms/condom wrappers Bed bugs Mold Bees  Worn out/broken furniture and appliances Semen/blood stains on chairs and beds I'm at a hotel as we speak. Thankfully, I haven't found anything too ghastly on this trip or any prior vacations I've taken. Just yesterday, I noticed a few clothing tags strewn on the rug. I also spotted some hair on the bed and stains on the curtains. 

Gift cards are yet again expected to be among the hottest gifts of the year.  This should come as no surprise considering the myriad conveniences of gift cards as opposed to other items, both for the buyer and seller. When it comes to the buyer, he or she doesn't have to worry about the item not fitting the recipient or possibly breaking on the drive home. It's also nice not to have to stuff cash or a check in an envelope, which, studies show, people are more likely to misplace. The person who receives the gift has the freedom to use the gift card to buy whatever item(s) he or she desires, provided that the total doesn't exceed the amount on the card. The only time a gift card becomes an inconvenience is when the retailer(s) listed on the card are those you wouldn't be caught dead shopping at. For example, how would you feel if you, a vegetarian, received a $50 Burger King gift card? Before giving anyone a card, consumers should make sure the recipient regularly

...very crowded? My wife and I have hit up three Walt Disney World parks over the last couple of days (hence the reason you haven't seen me post new content lately!) and let me tell you: Never in my life have I seen or been in so crowded a place. It's mind-boggling how packed the Disney parks get, especially Magic Kingdom. You can't walk a few yards without bumping into someone. I realize this is perhaps the busiest time of year to visit in light of all the holiday shows they put on. But they'll have to do something to contain the number of people going into these parks. Otherwise, pushing and shoving will escalate into all-out brawls, and mad dashes to go on rides might devolve into stampedes where people get seriously injured. Maybe it's just me, but the police presence at Disney has seemed rather light. Perhaps the massive crowds are indicative of the fact that Disney has become too big for its own good. This brings me to my main point: I absolutely loath

As the year winds down, it's always interesting to reflect upon the issues and events that people took to Google to learn more about. Interestingly, Lamar Odom topped Google's list of most-searched terms in 2015. The former basketball star, who's still legally married to reality TV personality Khloé Kardashian, was found unconscious in a Nevada brothel in October. Behind him came "Jurassic Park" and "American Sniper," in the U.S., two blockbuster films that went on to generate big bucks at the box office. Globally, Charlie Hebdo and the mobile game Agar.io came in second and third place, respectively. The most searched-for moment of 2015 was the Paris terror attacks, which generated close to 900 million queries. That dwarfed the more than 439 million searches for English pop singer Adele, who came out with a new album this year called "25."  Here are some other highlights about this year's top searches: Not surprisingly,

As someone who's been a victim of identity theft multiple times, I know firsthand how important it is to keep your personal information safe, and how frustrating it can be once it's compromised. Here's a valuable tip: If you can't use cash, use credit cards. You should aim to use debit cards only in the event that you need to withdraw money from the ATM. Credit cards offer two key advantages over debit cards: 1. They're safer: Most credit cards these days offer consumers zero liability protection. This means that they're not responsible for any transactions made without their authorization. All fraudulent purchases are removed, thus bringing the cardholder's balance to where it should be. With debit cards, the process isn't as hassle-free. The bank will dig deeper to ensure you didn't make the transactions and will usually require you to fill out and send over paperwork. What's worse, you have to wait for the bank to give you your money b

On this day in 1773, a group of Massachusetts colonists disguised as Mohawk Indians board three British tea ships and dump over 300 chests of tea valued at some $18,000 into Boston Harbor. This effectively came to be known as The Boston Tea Party, a milestone event in the build up to the American Revolution. The Boston Tea Party was in protest of the British Parliament's Tea Act of 1773, a bill created to save the struggling East India Company by greatly lowering its tea tax and giving it a virtual monopoly on the American tea trade. When three tea ships arrived in Boston, the colonists -- which viewed the tea act as a blatant form of taxation tyranny -- demanded that the tea be returned to England. When Massachusetts Governor Thomas Hutchinson failed to budge, Patriot leader Samuel Adams organized the "tea party" with roughly 60 membets of the Sons of Liberty, his underground resistance group. Outraged by what they considered a flagrant destruction of British prope

Many people don't feel good about themselves unless other people make them feel that way. They need others' validation in order to be happy and maintain high levels of self-esteem. This is most unfortunate. You should seek no one's approval but your own. The second your happiness hinges on what others say and feel about you, you've given them complete power over you. Why would you do that? What good does having others love you when you don't love yourself first? The bottom line is that no but you knows your true worth. No one will know or appreciate your talents, quirks, and innermost feelings like you will. Thus, true happiness comes from within. It begins with you . Sure, it always feels good to receive compliments from other people. But let's be realistic, folks: Those heaping us with praise can turn their backs on us at any moment. Yes, we need to maintain some semblance of a social life in order to live as well-adjusted individuals. But that

I just finished reading "The Last Founding Father: James Monroe and a Nation's Call to Greatness." I remember spotting the book at a local Barnes & Noble bookstore a few months ago and wondering why Monroe never seems to get as much attention as other Founding Fathers like George Washington and Thomas Jefferson. Interested in learning more about the last of the quartet of presidents who made up the so-called Virginia dynasty (Washington, Jefferson, Madison, and Monroe), I purchased the book. I learned a great deal about Monroe. For example, did you know he's the only person ever to have held the positions of Secretary of State and Secretary of War at the same time? Or that Monrovia, the first permanent Black American settlement in Africa, is named after said president? Or that Monroe nearly dueled with Alexander Hamilton had it not been for Aaron Burr, who himself would go on to kill Hamilton in a duel. Monroe fought valiantly in the Revolutionary War and

Kourtney Kardashian is reportedly dating none other than Canadian pop heartthrob Justin Bieber. At 36 years of age, Kourtney is the oldest of the so-called Kardashian clan. Bieber is 21, making him 15 years her junior. Kourtney only recently broke up with Scott Disick, with whom she has two children. If it's true these two are together, it'd be interesting to see what has unleashed the "cougar" in her. I presume that she's on the rebound and not looking for anything too serious right now. When you're in her situation, you are willing to settle for anyone who will help take your mind off your personal issues. I can see how she found potential in Bieber -- young, fun, and always with a smile on his face. For his part, he is probably not looking for anything substantive either. Does this have the makings of a fairytale romance? I doubt it. It's probably just another case of the media blowing a Kardashians story out of proportion. In sum, don't be

There's no denying that sleep is essential for good health and well-being. Unfortunately, our ever-increasing load of responsibilities -- from work and kids to cooking and laundry -- leaves us little time for shuteye. On the whole, though, people enjoy sleeping and feel more energized after getting a sufficient amount of it. Here are a few fun facts about sleep from the National Sleep Foundation: Exercising regularly makes it easier to fall asleep and contributes to sounder sleep. However, exercising sporadically or right before going to bed will make falling asleep more challenging. Man is the only mammal that willingly delays sleep Divorced, widowed and separated people report more insomnia Newborns sleep a total of 14 to 17 hours a day on an irregular schedule with periods of one to three hours spent awake Most healthy adults need seven to nine hours of sleep per night. However, some individuals are capable of functioning without drowsiness or sleepiness after as little

What would you do if someone gave you a cheap gift ?  With Christmas just a few weeks away, people are hitting the malls in full force, snagging everything from clothing to electronics. For some people, their holiday shopping list includes a few less expensive items they may plan to give to acquaintances or people they don't know all too well, like their kids' teachers, the cleaning lady at work, and so on. But sometimes we receive what we'd consider cheap gifts even from friends or relatives. This especially throws us for a loop when we've always given the other person higher-quality stuff. Would you feel the gift is a reflection of how much (or little) that individual values you? The first thing one has to determine is whether the person is strapped for cash. If he or she bought you something cheap because they really can't do any better at this time, then it's understandable. Most of us would probably do the same if we were in their shoes. The mere

Though many people will claim that finding love online isn't all that different from meeting and connecting people the traditional way, I beg to differ. Before I hooked up with my now-wife, I met several girls online and then in person. Though all but one encounter led to nothing more than exchanging pleasantries over lunch, I made a few observations when comparing how the two approaches differ. For one, when meeting the old school way, people are usually drawn to one another by virtue of physical attraction. The get-to-know-you phase comes later. With online dating, it's the other way around. You get to know the person based on whatever is said in online or phone conversations, then you meet in person and determine if you're both physically attracted to one another. Provided that people are being truthful about themselves -- we've all heard horror stories of people who misrepresent themselves -- I think the online-then-offline option gives both parties the oppo

What's do you think is the worst place to hit on someone? Below are just a few places where making a pass may be construed as crossing the line. Funeral Church Hospital Work Library Gym Court I think the first three are far and away the worst places for this. People at a funeral, church, or hospital unquestionably have more important things on their mind than getting laid. Still, I'm sure this doesn't deter some people from striking up conversations in hopes of going home with a phone number. These individuals will stop at nothing to reel in a date for Saturday night. If anything, approaching someone who may be grieving over the loss of a family member, praying for better days, or visiting a sick relative may immediately blacklist you, so don't try it.  Though it wouldn't seem nearly as inappropriate to approach someone at work, the gym, or the library, these are still places many people like to go to just to "get away" from the monotony

Do you picture loners as being antisocial, self-absorbed, and in a world of their own? New research from Wellesley College dispels that common stereotype and suggests loners can actually be loyal friends and quite amicable when you get to know them. What happens is that people tend to misconstrue their reticent ways for snobbiness, rudeness, or lack of social skills. While some of these people might very well be shy or self-centered not all loners should be characterized as such. Studies show that loners tend to have a much lower need for social acceptance than their more gregarious counterparts. They're perfectly content staying in with a good book than spending the night out on the town -- and they don't apologize for it. Loners still like to make friends, but they tend to maintain only a couple of close friendships. If they could have a universal motto, it would be "depth, not breadth." Thus, they have relatively high standards for friendship, but once th

...you found yourself alone with and hit on by someone you deem incredibly attractive? I posed a similar question in a prior post, which asked readers whether they think they could remain loyal to their partner if they found themselves stranded on an island with no one but a highly attractive person of the opposite sex. Most people would probably answer "no," but it's the circumstances in people's relationships -- and more broadly, in their overall lives -- that ultimately dictate whether they'll engage in acts of infidelity. For example, many people would be much more likely to cheat if their relationship is on the rocks. They could be having marital or relationship problems for a number of reasons, including: Lack of sexual intimacy/fulfillment  Financial problems Tired of feeling tied down Having fallen out of love Not feeling physically attracted enough to the other person Such conditions certainly make people more vulnerable to cheating. In ma

According to several studies, not to mention a slew of dating advice websites on the web, women scope out other women more than they do men at places like the mall, gym, and grocery store. Obviously, they don't "check" out other women in the same way and for the same reasons as they would a man. While men couldn't care less how other guys look -- and, yes, they do take to the gym to ogle the opposite sex -- women essentially compare themselves to each other all the time. They size up each other's hair, clothing, bodies -- you name it. Depending on the person, she'll either admire or envy other women ambling around with, say, bigger breasts or prettier legs. So why would women spend so much time paying attention to these details? For one, all women know how much effort goes into getting dressed up, staying in shape, and so on. So when they see another woman who seems to have gotten it right, they take notes. Perhaps they want to emulate the woman's

On this day in 1904, President Woodrow Wilson departed Washington, D.C, on the first European trip ever taken by a U.S. president. After several days at sea aboard the S.S. George Washington, Wilson arrived at Brest, France. He then traveled by land to Versailles, where he led the American delegation to the peace conference seeking an official end to World War I. Despite Republican opposite to the trip, Wilson worked indefatigably to hash out an agreement that would lead to a lasting peace in Europe. During the stay, Wilson also pushed for the establishment of the League of Nations, an international organization designed to promote world peace by avoiding wars and settling international disputes. At Versailles, Wilson’s hopes for a “just and stable peace” were opposed by the other victorious Allies, and the final treaty, which called for stringent war reparations from the former Central Powers, was met with intense disapproval in Germany. Regardless, President Woodrow Wilson was aw

Has the clean-shaven look lost its appeal among women? Do most of them instead favor a rugged appearance? That's the impression I've gotten after asking several coworkers and female friends which look they prefer men to have. Among the responses I've gotten are: - "The rugged look makes a guy ooze masculinity." - "Facial hair makes a man more respectable." - "The clean-shaven look makes a guy look boyish." - "Some of my ex-boyfriends looked younger than me after shaving all their facial hair." It's interesting to note that even among women who are partial to men having facial hair, there's a great deal of variability as far as how much of it they'd want them to have. While some women are content with a mustache, others (like my wife) prefer goatees. Still others like men to have full beards. Personally, I keep a goatee for roughly three quarters of the year -- the rest of the time I'm sporting the clean

One of the main reasons why relationships suffer or ultimately fail is because people become way too complacent in them. They stop doing the things that they did to attract the other person in the first place. That includes everything from staying fit and dressing nicely to being romantic and surprising your partner with little gifts. Thankfully, my relationship with my wife is still going strong after 10 years. (We've been married for close to two years now.) Still, it's evident we've become comfortable in our relationship. For the most part, the "cutesy" things we used to do for each other have taken a back seat to the responsibities of married life -- bills, laundry, and so on. That doesn't mean we don't love each other. It means that our relationship has evolved and matured. And we each still do nice things for each other, if sparingly. For example, I might surprise her with a romantic dinner at a charming restaurant, and she might cook my favorite

Ever feel like people around you are watching you, but when you look straight at them, they have their attention fixed elsewhere? That may just be the spotlight effect at play -- a phenomenon in which people perceive that they are being noticed more than they really are. Human beings are the center of their own world, but they tend to forget they're not the center of everyone else's. We go to great lengths to look good for social functions and so forth, but unless we're planning to give, say, a speech or toast, there's no reason to assume all eyes will be on us all the time. Of course, things may happen that can cause the spotlight to be on you. For example, you may slip while walking across the room, or you may be wearing very eccentric clothing that may prompt people to direct their attention to you. The way I see it, the spotlight effect is akin to being in a heightened state of self-consciousness. One might assume that everyone will notice her torn shirt. Un

...none other than retired English soccer star and heartthrob David Beckham. With an estimated net worth of $350 million in 2013, Beckham has endorsement deals with a slew of companies ranging from Armani and Samsung to Burger King and Diet Coke. He's also married to and has four children with Victoria Beckham, who rose to fame in the 1990s as a member of the pop group Spice Girls. Per PEOPLE magazine, Beckham modestly claims he's not sure he's even deserving of the honor. I know little about Beckham, as I've never been interested in soccer. In fact, I only recall seeing him in a couple of TV commercials and magazine ads. While there's no doubt he's an attractive lad, I'm sure there were several other celebrities who were as worthy of the mantle, like Ryan Reynolds and Bradley Cooper. I suppose Beckham edged them out because he's a global sex symbol. Do you think PEOPLE Magazine made a good choice? Who else do you feel was deserving of the honor?

If you've ever gone to the gym to exercise (as most of us have at least a couple of times), you've checked someone out, been checked out, or both. The question is: Do people like to be checked out at the gym? Here's my take: I think most people wouldn't mind being checked out so long as it isn't done in an obnoxious, intrusive way. Gymgoers put headphones on to listen to music, yes, but many of them also do it to deter others from striking up unsolicited conversations with them. While exercising, we're tired, sweaty, out of breath -- needless to say, we're not exactly looking our best. Sure, some people couldn't care less and resolve to find attractive men or women showing ample skin. Is it fair to say that people who show up in tight leggings or muscle-baring shirts are deliberately asking to be checked out?  That may very well be the case. Who wouldn't be flattered to know that others find them physically attractive? If you have a gre