In a word, yes. And I'll tell you why. Obsessing over someone -- whether it's a new date or long-term partner -- denotes one thing: You probably wouldn't be completely happy without that person in your life. And that's a mistake. Remember, your significant other doesn't complete your life . You complete it all on your own. Instead, that person should serve to enhance your life . Their skills, interests, hobbies, values, and beliefs don't always have to fall in line with yours, but they should most certainly complement them. He or she should be your biggest ally, encouraging you to shoot for even your loftiest dreams. But there's a marked difference between being someone's pillar of support and suffocating them entirely. If you're overly possessive -- trying to control your partner's every move -- let's just say that the relationship is headed down the tubes. Even though you're in a relationship, you are both still two separate...

I've seen, heard about, and been in relationships where one partner smothers the other, leaving the latter feeling as if he or she has no breathing room. Nothing good comes of such circumstances. Unfortunately, I was the clingy one in each of my ill-fated relationships, none of which lasted very long. I was much younger at the time. I lacked self-esteem and loathed being single, especially when so many of my friends were hooking up. I thought I could compensate for my low self-esteem by being overly romantic and demanding of my girlfriends' time, attention, and affections. I thought this would ensure that they wouldn't break up with me, and that I wouldn't find myself wrestling feelings of loneliness ever again. Boy, was I misinformed. While the girls acknowledged that my heart was in the right place, it all felt too suffocating for them. Hurt and confused, I naturally questioned their feelings at the time and reasoned that they just couldn't appreciate a guy wh...