Some of my male friends have posed this question to me countless times. The truth is, I share their plight. My wife, whom I've been with for over 10 years now, has never been one to initiate sex. Like my frustrated buddies, I found myself perplexed over the issue for many years. Eventually, I came to grips with the fact that no two women are built the same, especially when it concerns sex. There are a host of reasons as to why some women remain pursuees rather than pursuers. For one, some women have lower sex drives than others and find themselves unable to keep up with their partner's demands. Second, their disinterest in inititating sex may stem from their upbringing. Girls are taught from an early age that they should neither fawn over a man nor be too sexually forward. It is ingrained in these women that showing sexual interest is a man's job. They tend to keep their sexual desires under wraps lest they be labeled sluts or whores. While society gives men a pat on ...

Based on what I've heard -- and a few studies support this -- women generally don't care about how well endowed their partners are. To give you an apt metaphor, instead of what's under the hood, women are more interested in how well the car runs. So if size really doesn't matter, why do so many men assume that women desire a man with a big package? Men, being the visual creatures that we are, typically have no qualms about voicing their preference for women with bigger "assets" -- whether they be bigger breasts or butts. Is it any wonder that so many women invest in plastic surgery? However, I seldom see or hear women admitting to wanting a man with a bigger penis. Many men, though, simply assume that the larger their member, the better their prospects in the bedroom. It's a safe bet that if a man has a small penis but can use it in nifty ways to get his partner to achieve one or more orgasms, she will easily look past the size issue. It all go...

Based on what I have read and heard, while some women don't mind initiating sex, the vast majority of them prefer their partners to break the ice in the bedroom. The latter is certainly the case in my marriage, but it isn't as though I really mind -- at least not all the time. I'll admit that there are times I'd like my wife to be the aggressor. Who doesn't like surprises, right? But it's clear that 99.9% of the time, she wants me to take charge while she relishes the role of submissive. Women find sex to be more pleasurable when their partners are the dominant ones for one simple reason: the engine has to be warmed up before the fun starts. Whereas men need only see their partner naked to feel aroused, women need foreplay -- including kissing, rubbing, and so on -- to get in the mood. Men are visual creatures, while women are tactile. So, it would appear that most women are perfectly content playing traditional gender roles with their partners in bed. I...