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Many men are purposely choosing THIS kind of woman..

I have noticed that a couple of guys I know have deliberately set out to find a particular kind of woman: one who's disadvantaged in some way.

This can take many forms, including women who:

  • Are broke
  • Don't know English
  • Come from humble beginnings (poor, not educated, etc.)
  • Are vulnerable because of problems they're going through, like divorce or unemployment
  • Recently immigrated to the U.S. and need help assimilating, getting their affairs in order, etc.
Now, I'm not saying that these men aren't well-intentioned. They claim to love these women, and some of them have gone on to marry and have kids with them. 

Here's what disturbs me: They admit they like the fact that the women are disadvantaged because it means they'll always have to rely on them for support. It empowers them. It makes these guys feel like they're in the driver's seat -- in full control. In fact, some of them insist that the women remain housewives, just so that the men ensure they control the purse strings. 

To be honest, I feel this smacks of chauvinism. A lot of men feel they have to be the ones to make more money and be more successful. If their wives or girlfriends wind up the breadwinners of the family, it makes them feel insecure. 

Here's a wake-up call for men who do this: It's the 21st century! Women are making more money than ever before. They're becoming VPs and CEOs at an unprecedented rate. Instead of begrudging a woman's success, why not commend her for it? 

Who cares if a woman makes more money than you?  That should be seen as a good thing! I think it's great that women want to achieve success by virtue of their own efforts rather than depend on their partners. Isn't that better than being with a woman who's only using you for your money? 

Some guys want their girlfriends or wives to remain subservient to them, and there's little anyone can do to change their minds. I think this reeks of insecurity of the worst kind. It's time for these men to swallow their pride and realize that men aren't better than women. Women are deserving of the same opportunities to be successful in life. 

How do you ladies feel about this?

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Priscilla King said…
I'm penniless. I'd love to be rescued by a rich Prince Charming. But in order to convince me of his sincerity he'd have to invest in one of those just-add-capital business ideas I've been longing to use for years, and then I might no longer be penniless. He'd have to take that chance.
August 18, 2015 at 4:42 PM
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