Can't-miss tips for those in rocky relationships

Do you find yourself in a troublesome relationship?

Have you had just about enough of your partner's BS?

No matter the circumstances, take heart from this: Many people out there are going through the exact same thing.

Maybe you caught your boyfriend cheating and found it in your heart to give him a second chance, though you continually question the wisdom of your decision.

Maybe your wife's reckless spending habits have put a major dent in your finances.

Or, perhaps your husband doesn't invest nearly as much time or energy as you do, leaving you feeling as though you're carrying the relationship on your shoulders.

A relationship is essentially a partnership that two people -- not one -- strive to keep strong and vibrant.

One where both individuals' voices are heard and concerns are addressed.

I'm a strong proponent of couples doing all they can to make it work, even if it entails enlisting the help of a counselor. If they're genuinely interested in saving the relationship, they'll move mountains to do so.

But as I've noted in prior posts, a relationship won't survive without these crucial elements:

1. Communication: Speaking openly -- and putting one another's fears, dreams, hopes, goals, and aspirations -- is a must. Keeping feelings bottled up will only hasten the relationship's demise.

2. Trust: Ah, the foundation on which a relationship is built. Trust is all about confiding in each other on matters big and small. If you don't have trust, folks, you don't have anything.

3. Loyalty: I've stressed that cheating is undoubtedly the most egregious act one can commit. Relationships devoid of loyalty ensure one thing: that qualities like respect, kindness, compassion, and empathy are inhibited.

If you feel you've done all you can to infuse life into the relationship, but your partner keeps setting you back, it may be time to call it quits.

Life is too short to be mired in an unfulfilling relationship. Everyone deserves to with a caring, faithful partner who reciprocates the love and attention they provide.

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