THIS is crucial for a long, happy relationship

In order to ensure a long-lasting relationship, it's imperative that both people let their true selves come out from day one.

Imagine your partner falling in love with a phony version of yourself you've been projecting just to impress them, whether it be a filthy rich playboy or bookish intellectual.

Now picture yourself being head over heels for someone who's been dishonest about their personality, life goals, and hobbies. This seemingly wonderful person whom you thought you knew so well is more like a stranger.

Wouldn't you want them drawn to the most authentic version of you? Otherwise, the other person will be with you for who they think you are, which could be an entirely different person.

One's true colors come out sooner or later. Putting on a facade might help you in the short-term (e.g., you appear more confident or spontaneous), but eventually the real you will be thrown into sharp relief, and the other person may not be keen on sticking around -- especially if they feel hurt or lied to.

Now, things are a little different when two people first meet. They're each trying to look their best, so some of their less-appealing qualities may remain hidden for some time.

There's a stark contrast between trying to put your best foot forward and radically changing yourself to gain someone's favor.

When you commence a relationship by misrepresenting who you are -- whether on a blind date or through a dating site -- it only means it's days are already numbered.

If all someone is looking for is a fun no-strings-attached romp, then faking their personality may actually work wonders. But if true love is what they're after, it's a completely different ballgame.

Rather than pretending to be someone you're not just to score points with someone, be genuine so that the right person takes notice.

The more you pretend to be someone you're not, the more opportunities you miss to meet and couple up with people with whom you may have great chemistry.

Always let the real you shine through!

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