Whether you pack your lunch for your husband every morning, bring in your neighbor's trash can every evening, or take care of your cousin's dog everytime she's away on business, many people grow accustomed to being pampered without asking if there's anything they can do for you.
These individuals come to expect such special treatment as if it were the norm; they conveniently forget that you're doing them a favor and have no obligation to accommodate them indefinitely.
Even worse, many will fail to express their gratitude at all -- until, of course, you call them out on it or cease lending a hand for good.
Relationships should involve reciprocal generosity -- a balanced exchange of give and take. Each of you should take turns doing favors. If only one person in the relationship is a giver, sooner or later they will feel taken for granted and likely pull the plug on the relationship.
There's no denying that we all like to help our friends, relatives, and acquaintances. It feels gratifying to know we were there for them when they needed us.
At the same time, we like to feel appreciated. If our efforts are never acknowledged, we come to suspect that the other person is taking advantage of our goodwill. That's something no one should ever stand for, hence the reason you should communicate your expectations clearly.
If you don't tell them it bothers you -- and you never ask for anything in return -- they will take it as a sign that all is well and dandy.
A simple "thanks" goes a long way.
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