If you're single on Valentine's Day...

First off, Happy Valentine's Day to all of you lovebirds who are married or in relationships.

Whether you wanted stuffed animals or kisses (of the romantic or chocolate variety), I hope your honey has succeeded at expressing how much you mean to them today, though that should really happen daily.

For those of you flying solo this Valentine's Day, there could be many reasons why this is the case. Perhaps you're not interested in a relationship right now. Maybe you just got out of one recently and wish to spend the next few months having fun with friends.

If it just so happens that you're a little blue about being single, don't despair.

The right person is out there -- you just have to be patient. At the same time, you need to do your part. Get out there and attend social functions where you can meet people. See if there are any dating sites to your liking. Ask friends and family whether they might know any prospects.

They say life happens when you're not looking. Who knows if you'll bump into Mr. or Mrs. Right at work, in the gym, or while on vacation in another country. You may have even met them already.

Don't try too hard, but don't rest on your laurels either. And once someone does come into your life who has potential, don't squander the opportunity by playing hard to get or other silly games.

Even if it takes getting through a few bad eggs before unearthing a diamond, don't give up. You deserve happiness, and you'll get it so long as you remain patient and open to all possibilities that come your way.

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