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Why we get tired of being around the SAME people

Ever heard the expression, "Familiarity breeds contempt"? I think it perfectly encapsulates how many of us feel when forced to be around the same people each and every day.

Don't get me wrong. There are still some kind, generous people out there whom we'd have no problem seeing daily if we had to.

Those of us who work full-time, though, have to spend an awful lot of hours -- 40 or more -- in the presence of people we may not particularly like, from high-strung bosses to drama queens and attention hounds.

The main reason why people leave their jobs is because they don't see eye to eye with someone in their company, usually their supervisor. As we well know, people in the workplace can be quiet vicious. Some will stab you in the back just to get ahead. Others will ask you personal things they have no business knowing, as I emphasized in my post yesterday -- ANNOYING: The nosiest questions people can ask. Still others might just be so different than you -- whether because of age, hobbies, or temperament -- that you could never see yourself hanging out with them outside of work.

Another reason people bolt from their company is because they simply grow bored of doing the same work, in the same place, around the same people. You can only eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and watch your favorite movies so many times before you get tired of them. We bite the bullet at work because we need the paycheck, but how unfortunate is it that we see these people more than we do our own families!

Hopefully, you haven't gotten tired of being around your partner. When it comes to relationships, people may not claim to be tired of the person per se, but of certain unpleasant flaws or habits, like lying or always arriving late. Unfortunately, some of these do eventually become grounds for a break-up. And we usually don't get tired of being around friends unless we hang out with the same ones every single week.

While a few select people are often a source of happiness in our lives, there are many more who drive us up the wall and who we'd rather not have to deal with if given the opportunity. 

 I find that the things I never tire of don't have to involve people at all. That includes reading, writing, sleeping, immersing myself in nature, and listening to music. Pursuits like these serve as a great escape from the monotony -- and people -- we encounter every day.

Do you ever get tired of being around the same people, whether at work or elsewhere?
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