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BE HONEST: How much do you like to be checked out...

...by someone who catches your eye but isn't your partner?

Let's say you're as happy as can be in your relationship or marriage. Your love for your partner grows deeper each day, and you still find him or her as -- or even more -- attractive as you did when you first started dating.

Now, assume that you spot an attractive man or woman at the grocery store, and the two of you make eye contact on a number of occasions. How would this make you feel? Would you think nothing of it, or would you say, "Hey, someone attractive (other than my special someone) finds me good-looking enough to give me repeated looks, and it feels good."

I've lost a considerable amount of weight in the past few years, thanks in large part to the fact I've been doing weights. Now that I've gotten more buff, I'm getting a lot more looks from women. I'm a happily married man, but I won't deny that I feel good when someone other than my wife appreciates my physical appearance. After all, I'm working hard on my physique!

Does this mean I approach and talk to these women? Nope. That would be crossing the line. I wouldn't want my wife doing the same, so I refuse to be a hypocrite. I'm completely loyal to my wife and would never do anything to betray her trust. And I don't condone that people who are married or in a relationship do this if they can't resist the impulse to strike up a conversation. No good will come out of such a situation.

I believe that there's no harm in looking without touching. I'm not naive, folks: I know my wife finds men other than me to be attractive and probably checks one out from time to time. So why can't I do the same?

What are your thoughts on this?  Do you like being checked out by other men or women even though you're spoken for? (If you're not married or in a relationship, assume you are when answering the question.)

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