Here's someone you should definitely NOT date

You should not date someone who is unable to stop thinking or talking about their ex.

Maybe you catch them talking with a friend about them, calling you by his or her name accidentally, or even keeping photos of them locked in a drawer.

Their inability to let their ex go signals that they likely still hold feelings for him or her.

No one wants to be in a relationship where they feel as though they're vying for the affections of their partner.

Anyone who's having a rough go at moving on -- whether the relationship failed principally because of them or their ex -- has no business pairing up with someone new so quickly.

It all screams "rebound relationship," which isn't fair to the new guy or gal in that person's life.

I can think of few things as insensitive and selfish as purely using someone to either get over or even with an ex, or to use them as a distraction while they angle to get back with that person behind the scenes.

Toying with someone's emotions in such a manner will only redound on the individual negatively.

The ex may decide he or she no longer wishes to get back together, and the new partner -- sure to be a great catch in his or her right -- will bolt at discovering the betrayal.

Again, if you can't seem to get your ex out of your mind and heart, it's best to address those feelings head-on rather than jump into an ill-fated relationship with someone who doesn't deserve to have their heart broken.

There's nothing wrong with admitting that you loved your ex at one point, and you won't necessarily erase from your memory all the times you had together.

However, if it interferes with your ability to allow someone new into your life, you're just not ready.

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