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Never allow people to do this to you

If there's something you should never permit in a relationship, it's for someone to trifle with your emotions.

Whether you've known them for two days or two decades, whether they've apologized profusely or not even once, your feelings should be considered and respected.

If your boyfriend vows he'll never cheat on you again but you discover him canoodling with other women -- whether on social media or in person -- on multiple occasions, he is making a mockery of your feelings.

If your friend asserts that she only has the nicest things to say to other people about you but you receive word that she has made talking behind your back a pastime, she is little more than a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Sadly, these opportunists will use every manner of flattery to reel you in. They may profess feelings of love and warmth, but beneath the surface they're up to no good.

And, to make matters worse, they do such a good job at carrying on with the charade that you may not unearth their true colors for a long time.

Whether you decide to keep such a person in your life is up to you, but you're certainly not obligated to. I realize how difficult it can be to pull the plug on relationships that seem immensely promising, or that have stood the test of time.

But sometimes you just have to accept the fact that the other person will never care as much about you as you do them.

Is it really worth having someone like that around?

It's better to invest your time, energy, and affections on those who see investing theirs on you as worthwhile.

Don't shortchange yourself. Never allow anyone to convince you that your feelings are insignificant. If they strive to toy with your emotions, they don't deserve you -- plain and simple.
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