Well done is better than well said

"Well done is better than well said" is a popular axiom you may have heard before.

Can you guess who came up with it? (Hint: He appears in the image featured in this post.)

Well, it is attributed to none other than Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790). To say this Founding Father of the United States had an impressive is an understatement.

He was a printer, author, political theorist, postmaster, diplomat, inventor, scientist, humorist, civic activist, statesman, among other things.

Essentially, what Franklin is saying that, while words are nice, one's actions ultimately carry far more meaning.

Put simply, actions speak louder than words.

And we all know from experience that while many people can talk the talk, not everyone can walk the walk.

Maybe you were once in a relationship with someone who claimed he cared about you, but never invested the time and energy you did.

Or perhaps you had a friend who never seemed to be there when you needed her most, even though you stood by her through thick and thin.

If someone's actions don't align with their words, they are probably not being totally upfront about how they feel. It is at that point that a frank discussion is in order.

If, after having a heart-to-heart, you detect the person's actions continue to belie their words, you may be wasting your time.

Showing one loves another person is so much more impactful than merely saying it.

If that weren't true, we wouldn't witness so many relationships meet an untimely demise.

If you're not sure whether someone is lying, compare their actions to their words. If something seems off kilter, they're probably hiding something from you.

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