This is what makes us truly powerful

What makes us powerful is not that we're better than anyone else, for everyone has flaws. It's that we're different from them.

Sure, "different" can carry a negative connotation if it means the person is, say, a drug addict, woman beater, or compulsive gambler.

In this context, however, different means unique.

Maybe you know no one who can whip up a mean apple pie like you can.

Perhaps people lean on you for all things spelling and grammar because they regard you as the ultimate wordsmith.

Or, you're an expert a fixing cars, playing the violin, chess, or scubadiving.

We all bring a different set of talents to the table -- ones we should not only embrace, but continually aim to strengthen.

Having unique skills shouldn't be perceived as an excuse to show off or pretend one is above others.

Instead, it affords us the opportunity to:

1. Demonstrate to others the kinds of things we love (which may not align with their interests, and that's fine)

2. Continually build upon these talents and explore new ones in the process

Many people feel pressure to like the same things their peers do just to fit in.

But when you force yourself to like things that don't strike your fancy -- whether dogs, sushi, or baseball -- you put in jeopardy your individuality, and why would you want to do that?

Rather than always pushing yourself to embrace what your friends like, you should ask yourself whether they should do the same on their end. Why is it always you who has to bend to their will?

If they take issue with the things you love, maybe it's the people you hang around who should be swapped out rather than your hobbies.

There's nothing wrong with trying out something new on someone else's suggestion.

But the right people will celebrate what makes you unique rather than attempt to make you more like them.

They understand that differences can actually enrich a relationship, as it allows people to delve into different topics and learn new things from one another.

Be suspicious of people who put down your gifts or try to persuade you into giving them up. Chances are they are insecure of themselves, and it's merely a way to sooth their ego.

While sharing interests with friends is wonderful, we should always hang on to the very things that allow us to express who we really are.

Never relinquish your most authentic self for anything or anyone -- not a job, not a love interest.

There's only one of you in the world, so why try to be like someone else?

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