People like this are a waste of time

People who think they're right all the time and above others are a drain on our time and energy.

There's something to be said for humility, which the dictionary defines as "freedom from pride or arrogance."

In a world of people jockeying for power and prestige, those who own up to their mistakes and admit that they don't have all the answers are a breath of fresh air. Those who apologize, even when it kills them to do so, command others' respect.

Indeed, individuals who try to project perfection are clearly showing they are anything but perfect, because all human beings are fallible. It just makes it that much worse when a person is in full denial about it.

We may come across people like this in a variety of places. Maybe it's the know-it-all at work, the cocky weight trainer at the gym, or that immature cousin of ours who never acknowledges fault.

Unless one is willing to get off his or her high horse and swallow that pride, they will continually face challenges in their relationships.

Yes, there's a fine line between haughtiness and confidence. But a person can be confident without putting others down, craving glory, or shifting blame to every person but themselves.

No one is superior to anyone else -- no matter their age, gender, race, or station in life.

What sets good people apart from not-so-good people is the recognition (or lack thereof) that everyone deserves to be treated kindly and respectfully.

Are there times we'll disagree and possibly argue? Of course.

But rather than trying to tear the other apart, each person should acknowledge his or her mistakes and work toward common ground.

Neither should talk over the other; instead, they ought to take turns listening and speaking. And rather than passing judgment, each person must strive to understand the other's viewpoint.

Let us put modesty before vanity, humbleness before egotism, integrity before arrogance.

Let us always strive to learn from others (or ourselves), never assuming that our way is the right or only way.

Let us aim for peace rather than conflict.

But if the person continues like this, you can exercise your power to walk away and keep in your circle only those who add more sunshine to an already-bright life.

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