Maybe it's a friend who turned their back when you needed them most. Perhaps it was an ex who you discovered had been cheating on you for months. Or maybe it was a coworker who swooped in and landed the position they said they would help you get.
The reasons why people aren't loyal to us are varied, but here are the theee most common ones:
1. They're selfish. Some people enter relationships expecting loyalty from the other person, but think they're somehow exempt from doing the same for them.
Reality check: Relationships are a two-way street. Those who persist in their selfish ways and are unwilling to take another's wishes and feelings into account are ill-prepared for the sacrifices that a relationship involves.
2. They take us for granted. A person takes for granted the things and people they don't value. And it's impossible to be loyal to whatever or whoever holds little value in one's eyes. If you fall toward the bottom of a person's priority list, they will see you as dispensable.
They may surface when they need a favor, but then fall off the face of earth. Indeed, "user" is synonymous with "disloyal."
3. They never cared to begin with. This one may be hard for some people to accept, but not all of those in their circle have genuine intentions.
Certain people enter our lives under the guise of friendship, but have no interest in maintaining the relationship over time. It explains why we may never receive so much as a single call or text from them.
The bottom line
It goes without saying that giving your loyalty to someone who fails to give you theirs is a complete waste of time and energy.
Time is our most precious asset, as it's the only resource we have that we cannot recoup once it's gone. That being said, we should strive to surround ourselves who value our time as much as we cherish theirs.
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