Relationships are never perfect

Just as people are not infallible, relationships can never be perfect.

Still, people should strive to be the best versions of themselves that they could possibly be.

When you enter into a relationship with someone, you concede that it's not just about you anymore. Selfishness and egoism must be checked at the door.

There will be times where the two of you bitterly disagree about certain things. You'll endure hardships along the way that will surely test your mettle as a couple.

No matter how much time and effort you invest in the relationship, there will always be imperfections.

No matter how much you wish your partner were neater, she may always be messy. Perhaps you'd prefer if your boyfriend were more romantic, athletic, or bookish, but you've come to realize it'll never happen.

There are aspects of our partner's personality we probably wish we could change -- even if we never say so aloud. But part of being with someone is accepting them for who they are.

If they differ drastically from the kind of person you imagined hooking up with, then you're probably not in the right relationship.

But if you see them as enhancing your life -- despite a couple of flaws/pesky habits here and there -- then it's a relationship you should not be so quick to give up on.

As I've stressed in prior entries, unacceptable behaviors ranging from cheating to taking a person for granted can decimate a relationship entirely.

Those kinds of transgressions go far beyond demonstrating that a person is imperfect -- they show that such individuals should remain single until they can gain the maturity to honor their commitment to a partner.

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Anyone expecting to have the perfect partner will be sorely disappointed. However, one can view their partner as being perfect for them.

As long as considering each other's needs and concerns supersedes the urge to blame or prove the other wrong, the relationship can flourish.

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