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The main drawback of being picky with looks

There are those in our lives whom we consider genuinely good people. They're positive, helpful, accommodating. They've been there for us when we've needed them. We deem them a definite enhancement to our lives.

It's for this reason we may be astonished to find that they're single, and chances are they've been a bachelor or bachelorette for quite a while.

"But they'd make the perfect catch," we tell ourselves or others with bewilderment.

We later discover it isn't that they can't land a date, for their good looks and charisma have been known to draw a healthy number of prospects.

It's that they're super picky.

We might try to fix them up with someone we know, but they always seem to find fault with something, and it is usually in the domain of attractiveness.

For example, some women refuse to date men who are not taller than them. Then there are men who will not give the time of day to a woman who goes beyond a certain weight threshold.

The main pitfall to being very particular about the other person's looks, then, is that one could miss out on all the other non-physical attributes that make them who they are -- which may, in turn, make them more attractive in the choosy person's eyes and offset whatever they perceive as lacking. 

 A person's looks alone don't define him or her. A combination of a wide range of traits and qualities -- like intelligence, integrity, and honesty -- account for one's true identity or persona.

Some people are so steadfast in their desire for, say, a person with blue eyes that they immediately disqualify a considerable number of people with whom they might have terrific chemistry.

People are entitled to be as choosy as they please. After all, you can't blame anyone for sticking to their preferences if they're sure that going for someone who doesn't meet that criteria may lead to heartbreak.

But as I alluded to above, sticking so firmly to one's guns has its downsides when it means possibly missing out on people who you might pair well with.

At the end, looks matter, but they should never be the most crucial factor when it comes to choosing a partner.

Old age kicks in for all of us. We will likely get gray hair and wrinkles at some point. Our physique can never remain the same forever.

But intelligence and loyalty? Integrity and honesty? Those can last a lifetime, irrespective of one's height, weight, or eye color.
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