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When staying in a relationship doesn't make sense

Whether you've been with someone for a long time or only just recently began dating them, you may find yourself doing just about everything you can to keep the relationship strong.

Sadly, not everyone is similarly disposed.

Staying in a relationship makes no sense when you are the only one investing in it -- physically, mentally, and emotionally.

 Relationships cannot maintain themselves. Just like an air conditioner or refrigerator can't operate without routine maintenance, a relationship is not self-sustaining.

Moreover, it isn't fair for only one person to shoulder all the work. Each partner deserves to feel loved and appreciated. Each person should feel as though the other has their best interests at heart.

 Sticking around and hoping they'll change is not a risk worth taking when they've shown time and time again that what you see is what you'll get.

They don't have to say a word; their actions prove that either they're in the relationship for the wrong reasons (e.g., money, loneliness, etc.), or they simply do not value you enough to care more.

The more time and energy you spend on the individual, the less you have available for other people you care about in your life, not to mention a wonderful man or woman who could appear in your life at any given moment and potentially make a much better partner.

If telling them how you feel bears no fruit and they seem unwilling to contribute to the relationship in any tangible way, it is time to walk away.

You can take comfort in the fact that you tried your best, but your partner failed to reciprocate the time, love, and care you gave the ill-fated relationship.

As I've noted previously, it's always better to be single than in an unhealthy relationship that diminishes your self-esteem rather than enhances it. Your partner should bring you delight, not misery.

When one genuinely values their partner, they'll do nothing that can put the relationship at risk. Or, once they've realized their mistakes, take swift action to right the ship -- and never return to their selfish, inconsiderate ways.

Know your worth. Never allow anyone to take you for granted. You deserve to be happy. 
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