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Some people are just not worth it

Certain people just aren't worth stressing about.

I speak of those who are impossible to please. The ones who always have something to complain about. The type who seem disenchanted all the time, their primary goal being to have that misery rub off on us.

No, thanks. We don't need such people in our lives. The more we can steer clear of them, the more peace of mind and less negativity we will have in our lives.

Unfortunately, however, sometimes we have no choice but to stomach them as best as we can.

Perhaps you work with a toxic boss or co-worker, but you don't feel now is the time to switch jobs. Or, your meddling in-laws are really testing your patience, but you don't want to say anything to land in hot water with them.

That we will come across people we don't get along with is a certainty in life.

But as I've said before, life is more about how you react to situations than the situations themselves. It's about how you adapt to circumstances that you'd change with a magic wand if you had the opportunity.

You can't let these people get the best of you because then you've signaled to them that they have the power to infiltrate your mind and bog you down.

Try to see the big picture. The right opportunity to leave the company may come in a year or so, or maybe your toxic boss will retire or leave the firm himself.

And once the in laws see that you don't bend to their will all the time, they'll gradually begin to back away.

The key is never to surrender your happiness to anyone. The moment you allow them to dictate whether you'll have a great day or a lousy one, that's when you know they have you in their grip.

Remember, no one says you have to be tethered to a job or relationship that isn't making you happy. But if you genuinely value it -- except for that terrible boss or those intrusive in laws -- you can't allow them to get in the way of your happiness.

Stand your ground. Demand that others respect you as you do them. Don't give up without a fight. Convey that you have better things to do than stir up drama.
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