The worst kind of punishment you can inflict on someone is...

What would you say is the worst kind of punishment you can inflict on someone?

While many might feel it's delivering physical abuse (e.g., beating the person up), I firmly believe that mental and emotional damage can be far more difficult to rebound from. Such wounds can take far longer to heal.

When it comes to indifference, stop for a moment and think about just how painful it must be to realize that someone near and dear to your heart -- whether it's your partner, friend, or a family member -- couldn't care less about you anymore.

Such indifference could come in many forms, with unanswered texts or calls chief among them. Perhaps you don't get a call on your birthday from the individual, or even after just having gone through a trying experience (e.g., emergency surgery or a death in the family).

It could very well be that we forgot the person's birthday, weren't there when they needed us, or had a huge argument with them, and now they've cut off all contact.

After repeated (and failed) attempts to reestablish communication, one may get the hint that the other person has become wholly apathetic -- an impenetrable wall that not even the most contrite text or voice message can cut into.

We spend weeks -- if not months -- second guessing our decisions, agonizing over why someone could just toss us into the garbage like a worn rag.

Many people would probably prefer for a relationship to end outright following a nasty fight (even if fists are involved) than to be left on the edge of their seat because the other person has seemingly vanished. At least in the former scenario, you get a sense of closure.

Once it becomes apparent that the individual wants nothing to do with us, we have no choice but to move on. It goes without saying that spending inordinate amounts of time ruminating about what happened and holding out for a reconciliation isn't healthy.

Once someone decides to walk, we must respect that decision -- just as we would expect them to respect our choice to do the same.

The realization that we mean nothing to someone can be utterly devastating. It's no wonder so many movies and songs revolve around jaded lovers who quietly pull the plug on their relationship and cease to maintain contact, sometimes blindsiding their partner completely.

In conclusion, indifference -- rather than hate -- can arguably be regarded as the opposite of hate. At least when one hates, they still care to a certain extent.

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