THIS proves whether you truly love your partner

Whether they've been with their partner for 6 months or 20 years, people may hit a rough patch in their relationship, causing them to question whether they're falling out of love.

Sometimes it's a matter of injecting variety and excitement into a relationship where both partners share a deep bond, but have become far too complacent for their own good. And other times they realize that their feelings, unfortunately, are no longer what they used to be, and it would be better to move on.

All one has to do to determine whether they truly love their significant other is to imagine their partner in the arms of another man or woman.

If such a thought makes their blood boil, it's likely they do love their partner. If, however, it engenders no such feelings of anger or jealousy, it's plain to see there is no love to speak of.

In addition, we ought to ask ourselves whether we can picture ourselves with a different partner. If that thought makes you sad, you obviously care for your partner. If it brings a smile to your face, something is surely amiss!

Sometimes it takes breaking up with someone and missing them to realize that feelings run deeper for the person than previously thought. In such cases, though, it may be too late at that point to make amends, as the other person will have likely moved on.

Many will say that if you even so much as question whether you love someone, you probably don't.

I would argue that sometimes relationships hit a snag, and it's normal for one or both partners to raise concerns about how durable the relationship really is.

It is at that point that either may contemplate if their feelings for their partner remain as strong as they used to be.

It's always best to talking openly with each other. Hiding how you really feel will only keep the other person in the dark, and once they sense something is up, you'll come across as secretive and dishonest. Chances are they will suspect you're cheating on them.

Picturing scenarios like the ones described above help put things into perspective. Perhaps all that's needed to get things running smoothly again is a date night at the first restaurant where you dined together.

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