Don't be fake like other people

There's something to be said for those who embrace their uniqueness wholeheartedly, impervious to pressure from other people to subscribe to the so-called herd or pack mentality so many fall victim to.

Unfortunately, fake people want others to be fake just like them, even if it calls for turning one's back on the very principles, beliefs, and interests that make them who they are.

For some, the need to be liked overwhelms their desire to project their most authentic selves to the world, prompting them to act in ways that, deep down, may feel wholly unnatural to them. This may impact everything from their style of dress and political views to their choice of hobbies.

Never allow yourself to be ensnared by those seeking to "convert" people into carbon copies of themselves -- all to inflate their egos and compensate for their insecurities.

Follow your true passions. Pursue whatever career calls out to you. Hold fast to your beliefs and core principles. Do not become fake like those around you, even if it means that your relationship with them ceases to exist.

It's better to be detested for who you are than admired for who you're not. Why? Because there are people out there who will value the real you, so why succumb to efforts to relinquish that?

There's only one of you in this entire world. Don't change who you are just appease people who may not even be in your life tomorrow, or who may turn on you at a moment's notice.

Think of it this way: If a person really endorses your becoming fake like them, they're conveying that your most authentic self isn't good enough. More likely than not, they're projecting onto you how they feel about themselves.

Don't take the bait. Cherish your individuality. Standing apart from the crowd -- rather than blending into it and losing your identity in the process -- is one goal we should all aspire to achieve.

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