Skip to main content

Worry not about what others think, but this...

Worry about your character, not your reputation.

Your character is who you are. Your reputation is who people think you are.

Stop for a moment and ask yourself this: Do you care more about what you think of yourself, or what people think of you?

I sincerely hope it isn't the latter. 

For one, no one has ever stepped or walked in your shoes but you. So, really, who are they to judge? 

People can perceive you as being a certain way -- whether shy, obnoxious, self-centered, lazy, or dull. But perception, as you well know, isn't always reality. Our individual experiences shape us into the people we are, and people will never know the full extent of those experiences because they weren't there. And even if they were, they didn't live through them exactly as you did. 

Why care about what someone thinks about you if they may turn your back on you or leave your life at any moment?

Sure, there are people in our lives who mean a great deal to us and whose opinion we genuinely value. 

But at the end of the day, your opinion of yourself holds the most weight. If you love yourself, that's all that truly matters. If you don't love something about yourself, only you have the right to push for change. 

You're your single biggest ally in life. No one but you can achieve your dreams. No one but you can solve your most pressing problems. You came into this world by yourself and that's how you'll leave it.

Beyond being who we are, our character is who we are when we think no one else is looking. Unfortunately, when we do sense someone is watching, we may act in ways that are unnatural just so we can appease or look good in front of them. In such a scenario, we're more concerned with our reputation than we are our character

Always stay true to yourself. Act with integrity. Never compromise your values just to be accepted or liked by others. It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you're not. 

Comments

Unknown said…
I think i cant do what o would like to be who id like to or spend time with whom i like to bevause my mind gets sick.

Popular posts from this blog

Do you have Isolophilia? Find out...

You're probably asking yourself, "What in the world does Isolophilia mean?" It sounds like it would be something negative, doesn't it?  After all, words that end in "philia" (e.g., pedophilia) tend to involve things we want nothing to do with. But Isolophilia isn't something all people deplore. In fact, introverts like me welcome it. Put simply, Isolophilia is defined as having a strong affinity for solitude. It describes a person who relishes being alone. While extroverts can only take so much solitude, we introverts find that it rejuvenates us. In order to recharge our batteries, we need to retreat to a quiet environment where we we're left alone to rest and/or gather our thoughts. Extroverts, on the other hand, become bored and drained when they're alone for a lengthy period of time. Social interaction is the fuel that drives them. So while an extrovert would probably do anything to avoid feelings of Isolophilia in most cases, an...

Women vs. Men: Who likes to backstab more?

Whether it's on TV or in the workplace, the general consensus seems to be that women gossip, backstab, and stir up more conflict than men do. But, as with every other topic, I thought it only fair to put this so-called stereotype under the microscope. If you watch reality shows like Celebrity Apprentice, you'll notice it's the women who spend far more time bickering. While the men do at times become embroiled in tit for tat, it's the women who are portrayed as meaner and more hostile. In the workplace, I have noticed that women seem to gossip far more than their male counterparts. I haven't really seen any cases where a person blatantly backstabs the other, but I have caught both men and women in little white lies. If it is true that women are generally more into backstabbing and gossiping than men, why is this the case? I believe that it isn't fair to make a blanket statement like "all women play these games while all men keep to themselves and pre...

No response from someone IS a response

Make no mistake about it: When you don't get a response from someone -- whether they fail to answer your texts or return your phone calls -- it is  still a response, and a powerful one at that. When a person fails to respond, it's a direct reflection of their interest -- or lack thereof -- in the relationship. Few things are more aggravating than having to hound a partner, friend, or relative for some sort of reply after we've reached out to them. Yes, we get busy from time to time, but that doesn't give anyone the right to leave the other person hanging. A terse text with something like "Been busy, will reach out soon" doesn't say much, but at least it shows some effort to bring the other person up to speed on why they've fallen off the radar. Failing to provide a response for weeks -- if not months -- communicates that you are just not a priority, and that you'll have to wait your turn to get this individual's attention. This is n...