Some people go to great lengths to avoid conflict and confrontation -- so much so that they'll acquiesce to others' every desire.
Being too much of a people pleaser, ironically, will hurt you in the end -- the exact scenario you're aiming to avoid in the first place --because someone will eventually exploit your generous nature to get as much out of you as they can.
Yes, you should try to do favors for others and lend a hand when it's needed.
But you shouldn't be afraid to say no to someone for fear of disappointing them or causing a rift in the relationship. A relationship built on fear is no relationship at all. If something so minute can lead to tensions in the relationship, it begs the question: Is this the kind of person you want to be around?
You can be nice without being a doormat. It may sound counterintuitive, but people in your sphere -- whether coworkers, friends, or your partner -- will ultimately respect you more if you do stand up for what you believe in. The key is to do it tactfully, without raising your voice and causing a scene.
Don't let your emotions govern your every decision. Try to strike a healthy balance between logic and emotionality. I'm not saying decisions have to be made on purely rational grounds, but logic should definitely factor into them.
For example, some people become so emotionally invested in relationships -- whether because of longevity or fear of being alone -- that they turn a blind eye to the ways such relationships cause them a great deal of harm.
No matter what excuses you can come up with, you should never stay in a relationship in which you're subject to:
- Abuse, whether physical or verbal
- Cheating
- Indifference
- Feeling taken advantage of
In other words, never let your emotions cloud your judgment. Rather than allowing your feelings to override all logical reasoning, the two should work in tandem to help you make sounder decisions.
If a person is diminishing your life rather than enhancing it, your rational side should kick into high gear, cut through the emotional fog, and propel you to end that unhealthy relationship.
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As soon as you take that first scary step (you’ll feel sick when you do it the first time!), you realise afterwards that you have a strange and unfamiliar sense of achievement.
Take the time to step back quietly after you’ve done it, and watch to see what happens.
Don’t add anything, don’t regret doing it (you will have those fleeting thoughts at first but) don’t react. Be still. Ask the universe to take over the situation and bring the outcome that is in your highest good.
Of that means the relationship ends because you stood up for yourself, then so be it.
Thank the divine that the toxic energy has at last been removed from your life, and be excited for what is about to fill that void!! 🙌😃
It will feel like and abscess that has been removed and replaced with warm fuzzy feelings of joy 🥰
Don’t fear change hun. FEAR = False Evidence Appears Real
Your fears are false. You only feel that emotion because you don’t know what is on the other side of your action...
But please trust, the other side is more wonderful than you can possibly imagine.. YET!
Once you start to see the magic, you’ll want to change EVERYTHING on your life that DOESN'T bring you peace and joy 🥰