Spend your free time doing THIS

Spend your spare time the way you like -- not the way you think you're supposed to.

Do the things you enjoy -- not the ones you feel you ought to enjoy only because society expects you to.

If reading, writing, painting, fishing, fixing cars, admiring nature, museum hopping, going to a baseball game, shopping, dining, traveling around the world, or simply watching TV does it for you, go for it.

If you don't want to party, don't do it. If you don't want to drink, stand your ground. If you don't want to have a kid or pet, whether now or ever, don't feel compelled to do so just so that you can fit in with the animal lovers or mothers-of-three at work.

Many people -- even close friends -- will try to pressure you into doing things that go against your nature or may even make you uncomfortable. Don't succumb to such coaxing.

If they can't take no for an answer, they're not real friends.

You have a right to do as you wish in your free time. Don't refrain from doing what you love because you feel it will be frowned upon.

Life is too short not to do what makes you happy. It's too short to live it on others' terms. You don't give anyone a hard time for their choice of hobbies, so why should they do as much to you?

Only you have the right to decide what makes a good life. Only you get to choose what happiness really means for you.

Forget about societal expectations. Worry about setting your own, as those are the ones that truly matter.

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