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When people don't give you credit

Everyone likes a little pat on the back for a job well done -- whether from your boss for completing a report on deadline, your spouse for building that time-consuming playhouse for the kids, or your friend for helping organize their party.

Sometimes, though, this form of positive reinforcement can be hard to come by. And even if you do fish for compliments or credit in a subtle way, you don't end up getting any.

So what do you do in a situation like this?

You keep working hard.

No one will ever be prouder of your accomplishments than you. If you can't get others to acknowledge your efforts, there's no harm in taking pride in them yourself.

If it gets to the point where you feel you're being taken for granted, have a talk with your boss, partner, or friend and let them know your hard work often goes overlooked.

If that fails to bear any fruit, it may be time to assess whether the job, relationship, or friendship in question is really worth keeping. Once it feels as if you have to pull teeth to get someone to say thanks, we get fed up, and rightly so. Sometimes all it takes for people to appreciate what you do for them is the mere spectre of losing you.

Most people would agree that few things keep us motivated to do our very best like being recognized does. On the flip side, few things are as dispiriting as seeing our good work and deeds go unnoticed.

Do you agree? Have you ever been in this situation? If so, how'd you deal with it?
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CHERRY'S TAKE said…
Also one should keep in mind what type of person enjoys what someone doe for them and still won’t show them gratitude and appreciation?. Also if some one is jealous and envious of you , this can even be your spouse or partner, they may know with all of their heart that you are awesome and doing an amazing job and still won’t tell you , perhaps because of their own shortcomings. So dont get discouraged keep being you and doung well.
May 2, 2018 at 1:33 PM
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