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Is cheating on a cheater okay?

Some people are under the impression that cheating is fair game as long as your partner cheats on you first.

This, though, could not be further from the truth.

Cheating is unacceptable under all circumstances. Two wrongs don't make a right!

If you've been cheated on, don't stoop to your unfaithful partner's level. Ditch him or her and find yourself someone worthy of your time and affections.

Cheating even as an act of retribution makes it no less reprehensible. By cheating on someone who has wronged you, you give them ammunition to ask, "If my actions were so horrible, why'd you follow suit?"

Again, the very second the urge strikes to get payback on your partner by cheating on him or her, that's when you know you're better off pulling the plug on the relationship.

Why would you want to remain with that person anyway?

People stay with cheaters for all sorts of reasons:

  • They buy into the cheater's ostensibly heartfelt contrition
  • They're convinced the cheater made a mistake he or she will never repeat
  • They feel they can "change" the cheater's ways
  • They're so deeply in love with the cheater that the thought of ending the relationship hurts more than the infidelity itself
Unfortunately, there's no guarantee that the person will never cheat on you again. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is an oft-repeated quote for a reason. Some people are chronic cheaters incapable of resisting temptation. They live only for themselves and have no business getting into relationships when they have no sense of what it really means to be loyal. 


Again, don't waste your time and energy on someone who didn't have the decency to end the relationship before betraying your trust. Be the bigger -- better -- person.

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Unknown said…
What If they went First and then legt you IS IT still Cheating?

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