Don't get frustrated when plans fail

We don't always get back what we put into things in our lives -- our jobs, our friendships, our relationships -- at least not immediately.

When it becomes apparent that someone no longer fits in your life, it's best to let them go.

It can be hard to come to terms with the fact that someone who thought you'd spend the rest of your life with didn't turn out to be the person you envisaged. The same goes for an individual you thought you'd be lifelong friends with.

Whether you or the other party is to blame for a faltering relationship, sometimes trying to make it work only results in deeper resentment.

It is very difficult to part with something we've invested a lot of time and energy into -- something we assumed would last indefinitely.

This can also be applied to jobs. Many of us have grand plans of staying in the same company for many years, if not our entire working lives.

However, quarrels with our bosses or coworkers, unfulfilling/unchallenging work, few (if any) raises, and limited growth opportunities are among the reasons most of us eventually opt for greener pastures elsewhere.

Don't get frustrated when your carefully-laid plans seemingly go up in smoke. Don't blame yourself, for you don't have a crystal ball at our disposal to tell you what lies ahead.

Sometimes, you just have to take a risk and hope for the best. If it doesn't work out, don't despair. You will have learned from experience so that next time you can take whatever steps necessary to avoid a similar outcome.

It's through this process that we refine our planning and decision-making skills and zero in on better romantic partners, prospective friends, and jobs.

If we didn't experience failure from time to time, we'd never know what it means to grow -- to persevere -- to rise above our shortcomings and achieve remarkable things.

Life isn't about what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you. When things don't go according to plan, you have to chart a different path and embrace new possibilities.

If it's your relationship that came to an end, keep your head up and know that there's someone even better for you out there. Someday, you'll be thanking your lucky stars that the relationship didn't work out.

And just because things don't go swimmingly in one job doesn't mean it'll be deja vu with your future employers. As with relationships, every position we hold helps us gain better insight into what we want we really want out of a job.

Things change -- sometimes rather unexpectedly, I know -- and we just have to roll with the punches. As long as you stay positive and maintain hope that better things are in store for you, you will emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before.

Your plans may fail, but that doesn't mean you have. You will come out on top -- just believe in yourself!

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