Would you date...YOURSELF?

Unusual question, huh? But have you ever stopped and thought about this?

Pretend for a moment that you're someone of the opposite sex who's close in age. Do you think the hypothetical you would feel attraction toward the real you?

I know some of you might be tempted to say, Duh, I'm awesome." But let's try to be pragmatic here.

I'll go first.

I think it really depends on the hypothetical me's personality and interests. If she happens to be uber-adventurous, with a need to be out and about every weekend, then no -- I would definitely not date the real me.

The hypothetical me would only date the real version of me if she likes:

Deep, intellectual conversations
People who don't chit chat and waste words
The arts -- writing, drawing, music, film
Exercising and sports
Men with an academic bent -- those who'd prefer to have a book in hand rather than nail and hammer
Men who love to learn
Men who are passionate about animals and helping the poor

In other words, if the hypothetical me can appreciate a bibliophile writer -- and isn't just looking for someone who enjoys drinking and clubbing every week -- then the real me is one hell of a catch.

As far as looks, the hypothetical me might give the real me a "5" or "6" on a scale of 1 to 10. If the hypothetical me is intent on hooking up with someone who's drop dead gorgeous, the real me won't pass muster.

What about you? Would you date yourself? Why or why not? Be sure to factor in both looks and personality.

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