What do you use to reflect on the past?

When you ask people what they might use to reminisce about the past, most will point to pictures they might have stashed away in their attic or garage. But I think music and movies can also serve to take us back in time, both of which are pretty easy to retrieve nowadays via the internet.

Whenever I watch movies or listen to songs from my childhood, it transports me back to the time they were originally released. I ask myself questions like:

How old was I when this song or movie was out?
Did I watch the movie in the theater? Was I with my parents? With friends?
Where would the song be played? On the radio? At school dances? Who else around me liked it?

I realize some people might regard those details as minutiae, especially those who couldn't care less about the past or for one reason or another wish to put it behind them.

Another reason why I am so fond of music and movies from those years? I find them to be superior to the ones of today.

It seems the content we're exposed to these days is somewhat overdone: the movies are overwhelmed with special effects, while the music is louder and more obnoxious than ever before.

There will always be a special place in my heart for the 80s and 90s. I will continue using pictures, music, and movies to hark back to a bygone era that I will otherwise not be able to relive.

Do you use movies and music to reminisce about the past? Do you wish you could go back in time?

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