Do you remember your first kiss or crush?

In keeping with this week's central theme of remembering the past, I thought it'd be fun for us to share stories about our first kiss and/or crush.

I'm sure most of us remember the first person we kissed or took a romantic interest in. If you think about it, a first kiss is a milestone moment in one's life, and one's first "relationship" in childhood signals a yearning to connect -- for the very first time -- with someone of the opposite sex on a more intimate level than you would your friends.

The first girl I kissed was a girl named Doris whom I sat next to in Kindergarten class. The funniest part? It happened during a game of Truth or Dare. Yes, even kids that age were playing that. (I can't imagine the things they might be doing in 2015!)

I met my first crush, Helene, in the third grade. She claimed to be interested in me, and it showed. I spent my days either looking at or thinking about her. But I couldn't work up the nerve to ask her to be my girlfriend. Asking her to one of various dances hosted by the school would have been a good starting point, but I was too shy to do even that.

Not surprisingly, we moved in separate directions after elementary school. I always wonder what became of Helene.

If you're fortunate enough to still be friends with your first love or kiss - or, even better, went on to marry the person -- consider yourself blessed! I am friends with Doris via Facebook, but we talk only occasionally.

One's firsts are always special -- their first word, first car, first home. It's nice to reflect on special moments and occasions like these, which provide a window into our past and take us back to a time when our future possibilities were virtually limitless.

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