Here's why you shouldn't chase after anyone

Life is too short to waste our time chasing after friends, partners, or potential suitors who are too busy or indifferent to make time for us.

I firmly believe that there's the right friend and partner for everyone out there -- the kind whom doesn't make you feel like you need to climb mountains and traverse rivers to see them. If you have one great friend who is always there for you when you need him or her, consider yourself fortunate.

I know we all have an ever-increasing heap of responsibilities to worry about, and time just doesn't seem on our side. Still, a true friend will make the effort to squeeze you in. The same applies to someone you may be talking to on the love front. Whenever a girl failed to answer my calls and found every excuse in the book not to see me, I knew what the issue was: She just wasn't feeling me.

As I've stressed several times in my posts, we can always count on the company of one specific person: ourselves. I'd rather enjoy being by myself than in the presence of people who couldn't care less whether I'm around or not.

No one understands you better than yourself, nor values your time and opinions nearly as much as you do. If you get the cold shoulder from a friend or love interest, don't fret. Consider it a blessing in disguise. It gives you the opportunity to invest your time in people who truly care about you.

Again, if such individuals are hard to come by, you always have at your disposal the one person who loves you more than anyone and everyone else: yourself.

Have you ever found yourself in pursuit of people who just didn't seem to care about you? How'd you handle the situation?

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