Why men aren't ashamed to stare at cleavage

I'm sure most of you ladies have noticed a man unabashedly eying your cleavage at some point or another. You then wondered how he could have the nerve to make it so obvious.

Well, many men perceive your showing off cleavage as an open invitation to look, if not stare. What's worse, a guy might assume that you purposely opened up your shirt to give him a peep show. Before you've blinked, the guy has already approached you and asked you out on a date.

Women should be very careful not to attract the wrong attention should they decide to wear revealing clothing. Men are visually-oriented. If you give one the opportunity to see any of your lady parts, he'll jump on it.

I might look once, but at least I try to be subtle about it. Guys who stare for an inordinate amount of time are awfully rude. However, if a woman wishes to avoid such a scenario, she should aim to dress a bit more conservatively.

Women who show cleavage are, at some level, communicating that they don't mind having heads turning their way. Just keep in mind that you don't need to resort to this in order to attract men -- at least not the ones with good intentions. For many of us, a pretty smile is enough to prompt us to strike up a friendly conversation.

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