Here's a little joy for you on Thanksgiving

In an unprecedented year marred by constant tumult -- a raging pandemic, widespread business and school closures/layoffs, a battered economy, racial strife, a bitter election -- it's nice to disconnect from it all and take a moment to give thanks for the people who enrich our lives, even if we may not be able to celebrate the holiday with some of them in 2020 due to COVID-19 restrictions.

I'd like to wish you and yours a happy, safe, and blessed Thanksgiving.

Thanks for giving up some of your time over the course of the week/month to read, share, and comment on my posts. You guys rock, and I mean it from the bottom of my heart.

There's a reason I aim for variety in my choice of content/messaging. It's my hope that the more sobering posts offer comfort and valuable tips to those going through tough times, and that the lighthearted ones -- from silly puns to funny memes -- elicit laughs at a time of great uncertainty.

Our lives may be far from perfect, but we still have special things and people for which to be thankful. Let us come together -- virtually if not in person -- in the spirit of giving, kindness, and neighborliness.

Remember, if you have any questions/comments, you can reach me on Facebook (How to Understand People) or Twitter (@psychandhistory).

Or, if you need advice, you can send me a personal message on either page or at an email at JeffM8519@aol.com. (Due to demand, please allow 24-48 hours for a reply.)

A new year is little more than a month away. Hopefully, a light awaits us at the end of the tunnel and we can look forward to a better year than the present one we've endured.

Warm Regards,

Jeff

Writer/Editor-in-Chief and Relationship Coach How to Understand People

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