Why women should offer to pay on dates

One hotly debated topic is whether women should come out of pocket early on in the relationship.

When asked, some women retort with an emphatic "no" while others assert that a woman should indeed offer to help out.

While opinions will vary, my take is as follows:

I think it's a nice gesture when a woman offers to pay for something, however small.

It doesn't have to be lunch or dinner, but maybe a bag of popcorn at the movies, a game at the local fair, or even a movie rental via Redbox or Amazon.

He may still go ahead and pay himself, but it's the thought that counts -- and he will certainly appreciate the thought.

It demonstrates to the guy that she's invested -- whether emotionally, mentally, or financially.

However, each person's financial situation ought to be considered.

If either is strapped for cash -- maybe they recently got laid off -- it's only fair for the other to step up for the time being.

Some women are certainly more old-fashioned than others, believing the onus should be on the man to pay at all times.

Others may feel he should pay most of the time, but that it's no biggie to contribute on occasion.

One thing's for sure: Once a relationship matures -- with marriage, bills, and kids being thrown into the equation -- it's all hands on deck.

At that juncture, unless he's wealthy and doesn't need help, he will turn to his partner for monetary support. As we know far too well, things are only getting more and more expensive out there.

And we must make a distinction between women who have traditional values and those who deliberately exploit men for their money.

The latter are known as gold diggers, very often the kind who are too lazy to work to earn a living for themselves. (There are male gold diggers as well, equally repulsive.)

It's the 21st century. While women still don't make as much as men, the gap is certainly narrowing, which is something to celebrate.

And if there's one thing men find highly attractive in a woman, it's her ability to pay her own way, even if he refuses to allow it.

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