Why staying positive benefits YOU

I'll be the first one to admit that sometimes I have a tendency to dwell on the negative. I harp on what could go wrong instead of what could go right. It's this kind of mindset that often leads to failure and disappointment.

But why should we be pessimistic at all? In the grand scheme of things, it does us little good. In fact, negativity is known to induce depression, lack of self esteem, and other negative outcomes.

The best thing you can do is harness that negative energy and turn it into something positive. Go to the gym and enjoy a vigorous workout. Blast the music loudly. Look at pictures of baby animals. Do whatever brings a smile to your face, all while telling yourself "I can do it. I will get through this. I will prevail."

Teddy Roosevelt, the 26th president of the United States, once quipped, "Believe you can and you're halfway there." I think negativity begins to set in once we feel we're no longer in control of our lives. But it doesn't have to be that way.

As cliché as it might sound, what doesn't kill us really does make us stronger. We can achieve anything we set our hearts and minds to, only it takes hard work and dedication, and mental fortitude.

There's no harm in reaching out to someone for help. But at the end of the day, happiness really begins with you. The mind exerts a powerful influence on our behavior. Staying focused on positive things can make the difference between a great day and a pitiful one.

I always remind myself of this when I am going through tough times: There are people out there who have far worse problems. That alone makes me feel better. I assure you that if you do the same, you'll find yourself in a better mood in no time.

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