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Do men respect women more than they respect other men?

My wife's birthday was last Saturday. Because of other priorities, we pushed back a birthday dinner we've been planning for months to this week.

Here's the funny thing: I personally sent my three closest friends an invite via text. After two days, I had yet to hear a peep from any of them. So it dawned on me that maybe they'd respond more quickly if my wife herself extended them an invitation via text.

She did just that, and all 3 of them responded within the hour!

It seems to me like men don't pay as much attention to their male friends' inquiries as they do that of their female friends or acquaintances.

None of these guys are used to receiving messages from my wife, so as soon as they saw the texts, they probably thought it unusual and immediately sprung to action.

Could it be that many men have been taught that if a woman asks for something, you just do it? That it's the gentlemanly way of behaving? Perhaps, then, they might receive a similar request from another male and not attach as much importance to it.

In other words, guys seem to try harder not to mess up -- they care more about their image and how others perceive them -- when the request is made by the woman. If it's a guy, though, it can "always wait."

Have you noticed that men seem to play by a different set of rules depending on the other person's gender?

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Comments

Annamària said…
Men jump for a woman because they hope in "something". There's no gentleman behavior, it's just the hope to get close to a...... pussy :(
Thanks for sharing. You might be right, but I've also noticed this kind of behavior in married men who are completely loyal to their wives. They don't want to disappoint or inconvenience women in any way.
Anonymous said…
"None of these guys are used to receiving messages from my wife, so as soon as they saw the texts, they probably thought it unusual and immediately sprung to action."

Answered your own question there. It has nothing to do with respect or gender. It's banality vs NEW! EXCITING!

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