Let's face it: The vast majority of people in the western world are extroverts -- they draw their energy outward and thrive on social interaction. We introverts, however, draw our energy inward and become heavily drained by too much social chatter. If introverts don't find a quiet room in which they can recharge, they simply cannot function properly.
Maybe it's just me, but I find there to be more introverted men than women. Men generally seem more predisposed to rolling up their sleeves and getting down to business -- they aren't as emotionally-charged and talkative, I find.
I have also noticed -- at least at the places I've worked -- that women are usually quicker than men to single out the "quiet one" in the office. "He is so quiet. Why doesn't he talk?" they might wonder. Though some guy may mention a thing or two in passing, it is the women who seem to harp on stuff like this.
So, that begs the big question: Does it actually turn a woman off when a guy is quiet and reclusive at first?
I would imagine it may turn those off who expect a guy to exude boldness and self-confidence. After all, most women expect to be asked out, and they may see a non-talkative, introverted guy as someone who would never muster up the courage to ask them out on a date.
Some women might also attribute other negative qualities to the guy on the basis of his quietness -- unfairly, I might add. It's only human nature to fill in the gaps by painting a complete portrait of the person in our heads. For example, some women might assume that since Joe in accounting is quiet, he is also boring, self-absorbed and bad in bed.
My hope is that there are some women out there who think differently. For example, I'm inclined to believe that introverted women themselves are accepting of introverted guys. I also surmise that even some extroverted women might find introverts to be a challenge. Perhaps those women are drawn to his mysteriousness, prompting them to want to dig deeper.
Would you say that all women dislike quiet, introverted guys?
Maybe it's just me, but I find there to be more introverted men than women. Men generally seem more predisposed to rolling up their sleeves and getting down to business -- they aren't as emotionally-charged and talkative, I find.
I have also noticed -- at least at the places I've worked -- that women are usually quicker than men to single out the "quiet one" in the office. "He is so quiet. Why doesn't he talk?" they might wonder. Though some guy may mention a thing or two in passing, it is the women who seem to harp on stuff like this.
So, that begs the big question: Does it actually turn a woman off when a guy is quiet and reclusive at first?
I would imagine it may turn those off who expect a guy to exude boldness and self-confidence. After all, most women expect to be asked out, and they may see a non-talkative, introverted guy as someone who would never muster up the courage to ask them out on a date.
Some women might also attribute other negative qualities to the guy on the basis of his quietness -- unfairly, I might add. It's only human nature to fill in the gaps by painting a complete portrait of the person in our heads. For example, some women might assume that since Joe in accounting is quiet, he is also boring, self-absorbed and bad in bed.
My hope is that there are some women out there who think differently. For example, I'm inclined to believe that introverted women themselves are accepting of introverted guys. I also surmise that even some extroverted women might find introverts to be a challenge. Perhaps those women are drawn to his mysteriousness, prompting them to want to dig deeper.
Would you say that all women dislike quiet, introverted guys?
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