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We don't "click" with everyone

People say it isn't always easy to forge new friendships or relationships, and with good reason.

The fact is that we don't click with everyone. And even if we do click with someone in the early stages of a relationship, that may not be the case five or even ten years down the line.

So why don't we click with everyone?

  • Different personalities: When people have different temperaments, it opens the door to bickering. The person with the stronger personality tends to overpower the more docile one, leading to feelings of resentment in the latter. Though many people believe that friends with completely different temperaments can balance each other out, studies have disproven such a notion.
  • Different interests: While most people's idea of a fun night is hitting a bar or club with a group of 10, I'd be happy sitting at home watching Netflix or going to a restaurant for a quiet dinner. Unfortunately, the less gregarious types may feel pressured into socializing more than they'd care to in order to "fit in." Once this becomes routine, it's a surefire sign that the friendship is not going to work out.
  • Different values and beliefs: We all come in different stripes. Some of us are Jehova's Witnesses. Some of us are virgins. Some are Democrats, others Republicans. We all hold different views and may not wish to compromise them. If we find ourselves in a relationship where we're being coaxed into changing what we stand for, we're likely to become defensive and cut the other person loose.
Any others you recommend I add to the list? Comment below!


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