Follow your passions, but be careful not to do this

Whether you love reading history books or romance novels, fishing, cooking, dancing, or playing the piano, you should immerse yourself wholeheartedly in your hobbies -- and strive to cultivate new ones.

Life is too darn short NOT to do the things that enrich us physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And if we can find people with whom we can share such passions, it's all for the better.

It's always nice to turn to something that affords respite from the daily grind, reminding us that our days shouldn't only be filled with stress, worry, and negativity.

And it doesn't have to be anything extravagant.

For many people, something as simple as taking the dog for a walk at a nearby park or reading science fiction stories counts as a favorite pastime.

But when we're busy with work, chores, or the kids, we can be hard-pressed to work time for hobbies into our schedules.

That's when having a friend or relative who can lend a hand -- even if only for an hour -- can pay huge dividends.

The only exceptions to this would be:

1. Doing anything that can physically or emotionally hurt you or others, whether you know the latter personally or not.

2. Doing anything that sets you back financially, whether it drains your bank account or drowns you in perpetual debt.

Everyone's idea of fun and enjoyment vary. Whatever tickles your fancy, do it to the hilt.

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