People don't notice what you do for them until...

Some people don't appreciate all the things you do for them until you cease doing them at all.

They end up learning the hard way that they didn't know what they had until it vanished from their life. And, by then, it's probably too late.

No one wishes to be taken for granted. Yet, many people don't live their life by the motto, "Treat others as you would want to be treated."

Some people just grow accustomed to others' nice gestures -- whether it's getting a call from them every week or a surprise visit every month -- and it doesn't occur to them that maybe they should return the favor every now and then.

Relationships aren't just about giving, but receiving as well. They take turns scratching ones another's backs.

One person should not be carrying the load on their own, contributing a disproportionate amount of time and energy.

You should never feel embarrassed to address how you feel you're efforts aren't acknowledged. If that changes nothing still, you may very well want to stick a fork in said relationship.

Face it: Not everyone is equally committed. People may say they are, but their actions can communicate otherwise.

Never allow yourself to be used.

Never allow anyone to convince you that your feelings don't count.

You're just as worthy of the attention and care you give others as anyone else. Those who don't agree with that do not deserve to be in your life.

And nothing helps someone feel treasured quite like thanking them for all the wonderful things they've done.

Don't settle for less than you're worth.

Surround yourself with people who regard you as enhancing their lives just as you feel they do yours.

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