Beware of liars around you

It's safe to say that all of us lie here and there. Whoever says they never do it is, well, lying!

From fibbing on our resume to sprinkling a few white lies on dates in order to make a good impression, there's no denying everyone stretches the truth at times.

However, there's a certain group of people out there who lie compulsively and deliberately.

They don't care what they have to say or do to get their way, and they're oblivious to others' feelings.

For example, there are men who will say just about anything to get as many women in bed as possible -- whether it's showering the women with compliments that don't come from the heart, or lying about their net worth.

On the flip side, there are women who deceive men into thinking they really care about them just so the men can buy them anything they wish.

These people have mastered the art of lying -- so much so that it has become second nature to them.

However, their deceit catches up with them sooner or later. They can't pull off the charade forever.

Once others unearth their lying ways, they do what they should have done a long time ago -- cut them off without looking back!

Relationships built on lies founder. And expecting a perpetual liar to become sincere? Don't hold your breath.

People get tired of endless lies, excuses, and apologies. We are better off surrounding ourselves with individuals who enrich our lives rather than make them more difficult.

If someone can't remain loyal, open, and honest, they have no business being in a relationship with someone whom they risk hurting.

I wouldn't say "once a liar, always a liar" applies to everyone, but many people can't shake off their penchant for paltering.

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